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The Various True Lover Tests

By Sharon Weeks


Almost everybody has gotten into a feeling that cannot be easily explained. This is a feeling of much excitement laced with euphoria. This is especially vibrant when you think of having a talk with that person that you constantly think of. You may at one time feel as if she is reciprocating this feeling but you keep on questioning it. The true lover tests will help us differentiate between love and other feelings.

If you believe that infatuation is a love tester, you might be in an awesome relationship but you still fail to feel the love. The skewed expectations might be taking a rich, warm and deeper relationship from you. To add on, lack of knowing the difference between infatuation and love may lead you to unintentionally connecting to a person never to be your spouse and still conclude naively that you have found love.

To get to know which feeling is haunting you, the long term implications and expectations of that affair should ring in your mind. Theories have it that a successful love should be composed of intimacy, commitment and passion. Failure to strike a balance among the three is the reason why marriages end up being strained. The intimate couple that is not committed to the marriage cannot last for a longer period of time.

True love should flourish as time goes by. If relationship dwindles as time elapses then that is not love. Mostly a relationship that does not stand the test of time is more of infatuation than love. Therefore one should carefully analyze the trend as time goes by. This test gives a chance to quit when necessary.

The security test. Love that is genuine needs and nurtures a sense of trust and security. A person who is infatuated seems to lack the sense of security, is based upon wishful thinking instead of careful consideration. When one is infatuated, he/she becomes blind to problems. Security is able to flow out of deep knowledge on the character, track record and values of the other person.

The most important thing in any relationship is trust. This gets illustrated by the security levels in a relationship. An individual who always feels insecure at times is just infatuated. This is because in love the partners are intertwined. They naturally feel as one. Their insecurity level is close to zero. Insecurity in a relationship is linked to poor trust level of each other.

Genuine feeling of love gives a conducive environment to interact with the other party. The likes and dislikes are learnt as the affair grows. Anyone who claims to know his or her lover at the start of a relationship is just infatuated. This is because a lot of time and patience is required to understand each other.

When we know what love is really is, we get to know that challenges will always be there. It is important that you walk through the issues and enjoy every beautiful moment that you share with your partner.




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